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DEAR DR. NERDLOVE:  I’ve read your column for a while now and frankly I don’t know why I’m writing to you because I feel like you’re going to give me just more feel-good bulls--t. I’m tired of all th... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: This might be outside your scope, but I’m going to give it a try and reach out. Lately, I’ve been really struggling, to the point where I’ve had some dark, depressive thoughts. My ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Been reading your column for years and have suggested it to more than one teenage boy when they’re thinking or asking about relationships. You also answered a geeky work question f... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have a question that’s less about should I stay or go but more about whether it’s worth waiting for someone or not. ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I think this will be a lot lighter than a lot of letters that you receive, and it’s perhaps a little funny, but it’s a problem none the less, and I’m a little worried that there’s ... more

Doctor’s Note: today’s column involves the discussion of sexual assault and rape, including descriptions of the act. Please read at your own discretion. ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m trying to start dating for the first time. I’m 22, been on exactly ONE date, never kissed, still a virgin. I’ve been shamed about it by so-called “friends” more than once, and ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: In general, I noticed a pattern with men I have dated. They all had better relationships with other people and I realize I was objectified maybe or used maybe because they did not ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I recently turned 25 and I’m dissatisfied with my sexual and romantic inexperience. I recognize that it’s the result of me having slicks anxiety and not really having a social life... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So there is really no easier way to say this: I royally f--ked up, I f--ked up my friendships, I f--ked up my chances at dating, I f--ked up my chances of finding any community of ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I was talking to a female friend of mine today after I played D&D with this other woman, and she made a comment along the lines of “Thanks for playing, you guys! Hope you don’t mur... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So, I recently decided to make things official with a girl I first dated in the fall of 2023 but ended things with because it didn’t seem like we were right for each other. We had ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I recently read your article on knowing what you want from relationships and I feel like I have a related problem that I could use your input on. Put simply, I (32 M) have a track ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I (39M) have been single and a virgin most of my life. Growing up I was always a shy kid (still am really). I never had trouble attracting girls, but they were never girls I was in... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m 28, male, and don’t need dating advice. I need life advice.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: What I want to ask can be best summed up as “Why are men so easy?”... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Many years ago, I was very unexperienced in the ways of dating. I found your column and your advice helped me through when a guy at work asked me out. You helped me getting used to... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m 47 years old. I left my sexless marriage ten years ago. I fully expected to have a rich sex life post marriage. I did not. The last time I had sex was years ago and that was an... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m sure this is familiar territory for you and many others, but here we go. I don’t know what I want out of my relationship. I suspect I never really have in past relationships ei... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am 15 female, and I am going through indirect rejection.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I know dating struggles are your bread and butter, but I guess I big blind spot you seem to have is frankly women and men having pretty much completely different struggles in the d... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So I used to be friends with this guy two years ago. We weren’t super close, but we were still friends. A year later, we didn’t have any classes together and sort of fell apart. ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve read articles where one person or the other in a relationship has lost their interest in sex, but what happens when it’s both of you?... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m not sure exactly what this is meant to be. Seeking advice, ranting/venting. But I’ve just got some stuff that I need to say to someone, and it feels too embarrassing to talk to... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 35-year-old woman, and I’ve been married for 10 years, together for 12. My husband and I have always had a good sex life, but it’s always been very standard, and, if I’m hon... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I was interested on a coworker (26F) but it was hard to communicate with her: if we were alone, she would ignore me and if I started a conversation, she would talk, but in a nonch... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve stumbled upon your blog and account every now and then. I always end up reading at least one of your posts, sometimes more. Never as a subscriber though because some of this ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: This is really only somewhat related to dating but I hope you can help me anyway. I’m a recent college graduate, new resident in a large midwestern city and I just turned 25 and I... more