DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have (or had, I don’t know anymore) this friend who I was deeply in love with her, but for personal reasons, I just wanted to be her friend and for a while it worked. We had good ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So, I lived very happily being single for some time – and I also had my quota of serious relationships in the past. But after some time being single, I met this girl in my home coun... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 42 year old woman who has had one long term relationship in my life, that lasted about 10 years but ended over 10 years ago. Other than that it has been a series of dates here... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I love your work! I’m a female and your work gives me hope in so many ways. You remind me that men, woman and all humans identifying inside of or outside of the binary system all ha... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I was inspired to write this based on your recent article about the kinds of men women like, and how you’ve talked about archetypes in previous columns. Do you have any advice for o... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Question about sex coming your way! I’m 31/F and I’ve been in a happy and healthy relationship for the last 10 months or so. I love this guy–he’s sweet, caring, we have so much in c... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I know your stance on porn already, but I was hoping to take it a step further and ask what you think about porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED)... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a gay man. In my tennis group there is a 32 year old guy that I find very attractive, who I have known for about 3 years. We were never close friends, but rather just friendly a... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So, before I say anything on the topic of The Grimes Test, I must say I’m not against the idea itself. It’s accurate in every regard. The problem is in how I personally sit beside i... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So I just finished reading your recent post debunking the idea that women only want to date rich buff alpha bros. I completely agreed with the point you made, but it reminded me of ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I (F, straight, cis, 29) am really f--king furious about something and I think I need a guy with lots of male-female insight to talk me off the ledge.... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 43 year old single dad who has a lot on his plate right now. Probably too much, at least the way I see it, to pursue a serious relationship. I’m also a late bloomer, so in my ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am getting to know a girl who I feel is very compatible with me. We have similar interests, she’s attractive, and most importantly we share similar views on future life goals. She... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: This may not be the most exciting question you’ve received, but I’m at a loss, and I need some professional help. I’m a 45-year-old male divorcee who is happy with the way things sh... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a student in my early 20s, and I have Aspergers/am on the autism spectrum. I’ve been dealing with a lot of conflicting thoughts and feelings when it comes to the state of my lov... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I wanted to ask… as a female that happens to be a geek how do I approach new male friendships? I try to be a social person and venture out-or even through friends of my friends on r... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 33 year old man and I’m writing with regards to a recent experience with a girl who has placed me seemingly firmly in the Friend Zone.... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I (33/Male) have been following your site for a while now and have found it enormously helpful in changing my outlook. For a long time I have had a very negative view of myself, bas... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Longtime reader here, first time writer and not a native English speaker so please excuse any mistakes. You sometimes tackle the topic of friendships instead of romantic love so I w... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve got this ex, and we’re friends. We’re exes because the stars didn’t align for us, and that’s it. We’ve been close for ten years, on and off, and I really love her. We’ll call h... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: 41 yr old cis woman here. Love your blog, it has helped me understand men better and also gives me hope for those you save. Seems like you have your hands full most days!... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have never had much luck dating. Whenever I ask anyone about this, they tell me I need to focus on myself. I need to find interests, work out, work on other goals. Then I do all o... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: There is this guy that I’ve liked for 3-4 years almost, and well he’s pretty confusing. First things first, he’s an introvert, he does not talk a lot, and secondly it depends on who... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Long-time reader, first-time writer. I have the privilege of teaching improv comedy for a living. My students are all adults. Sometimes I get a vibe that a student might be interest... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m hoping for a bit of advice. I’m a single woman in my late 30s. I’m a big nerd, but I can also talk sports fluently. I have a great job that pays well, a nice apartment all to my... more