DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have long dreamed of emigrating from the US, and as COVID slows down it looks like I may have the opportunity to move to my top-choice country in a few years. My partner of three ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been struggling with getting through a transitory period in my life and was wondering if you had any advice. Over the past year, most of my long-term friends from college and e... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m 24 years old now, going into my final year of uni, and recently came to the realisation that it’s really hard for me to relate to my peers in the ways everyone else can. It’s pa... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: First time, long time, etc. I had a question that I don’t think I’ve ever seen you cover before so I guess I get to be the first, LOL.... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 26 year old male. I’ve struggled with self-esteem, anxiety and depression for years now. Fortunately, in recent months I’ve started taking medication that helps with some of m... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I recently started seeing my friend’s ex and we’ve slept together a couple of times. I was friends with both of them for 4 years before they started dating. A (the ex) and I always ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am a 26-year-old gay man living in Boston. I recently started dating a man in his 30s whose biggest turn-on is having a guy lick and kiss the bottoms of his feet. At first I enjo... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m having a problem that I’m not sure what to do. After losing two wives to cancer in the last 40 years I don’t want a steady woman in my life. At 71 I am still young in my mind bu... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: You have written eloquently about the ways ADHD has affected your life and your relationships. I find myself feeling a great deal of anxiety and insecurity at a rather late stage in... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I just got engaged to my boyfriend of 6 years and was extremely happy until I found pictures of an old fling in his email. They weren’t dirty pictures, which I actually found more o... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So I have this FWB I’ve been friends with since we were about 12 (now 33/34), with benefits for about 2 years. They had a crush on me and wanted to date back in high school, but I w... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am a woman who was sent an article by a male friend about how the chess world is hostile to women. He asked my opinion and I replied “well, I wouldn’t say hostile, but I do routin... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been a huge fan of yours for a decade now–you gave me such thoughtful and kind advice when I struggled with “losing” my virginity years ago (“Good Girl Gone”). It helped me imm... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I would like to get to the bottom of my problem in that I’m struggling with attracting “my type.” Now I understand the topic of “types” may have been beaten to death, but I really f... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I discovered your web site a while back and have read many of your excellent postings. Your web site rocks! In a field so rife with just plain bulls--t, you’re laying everything dow... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I was hoping you could maybe lend some insight on. I know your specialty isn’t women, but you’re so sex positive and respectful. I don’t know you personally, but you make me feel re... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So I’m hoping to get the male POV/advice on my ex. We got together during the start of the pandemic and were together for 1.5 years (plus 8 months talking long distance). For the la... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve appreciate your advice and I’m wondering if you can help me with the issue I’m dealing with currently. I am a straight woman (24), and everyone involved here is 22 years old.... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: When do you disclose a borderline invisible disability when dating? I’m a woman in my late 20s who has finally entered the world of online dating. I was born with a medical conditio... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve recently run into issues in growing my social circle as part of the process of becoming a better, more well-rounded person with the hopes of finding a significant other, gettin... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Would it be too much trouble for you to help solve an ongoing debate between me and my friends? I’m a brand-new college graduate and the “ugly” one in my friend group, just as I was... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m hoping you can help me out. I’m 38, a self-professed geek, and sadly, very single. I seem to be having a problem involving meeting women, that I can’t seem to overcome. I also s... more