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DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m feeling a little hurt right now, and I’m hoping some wise words might help me put things into perspective.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m writing to you after having just ended another relationship, and I keep getting the same feedback from women I date: that I’m too intense, too argumentative and dismissive and ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m not exactly sure what term to use for myself. Broke off my last relationship because it was toxic almost 12 years ago.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been pursuing a woman, she’s Georgian, for a few months who I’ve gone to university with. I can tell she really likes me due to her obvious body language and since I’ve become... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Sorry for the long letter and if the English is not the great since it is not my mother tongue.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: As a man who’s still figuring out dating and has been played before, what are the signs someone is just using you for free stuff? Not only that but when is someone being dishonest ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I could use your help figuring out if I’m the a--hole or if my friend is overreacting and I don’t know if I trust Reddit to give me a good answer. ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So navigating the swamp pit that is modern is because all the chaos and contradictions especially as autistic virgin in his late 20s. From being told to women are the happiest when... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My wife has a “work husband”, a co-worker she has a close and emotionally intimate friendship with. I normally wouldn’t be bothered, but I feel like it’s starting to cross lines th... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I saw your “Flurry of dating advice” post on Google, and one guy said pretty awkwardly that he was into Asian goth girls because he associates paleness with Japanese horror.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Allow me to start with the caveat that I have had some relationships in the past (2, one of 2 months and one of 3 months), those were at this point more then 15 years ago... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I finally woke up out of dreamland a year ago mortified with the fact that, at the ripe old age of 21, that I am still a kissless virgin and haven’t been in a relationship with a g... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m an almost 39-year-old single straight white male. I was a late bloomer and never even kissed a girl until I was 22. Got my first “girlfriend” and lost the v-card at 24. After t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I (45+ female) guess I am writing this letter from a place of loneliness. Maybe not so much in a romantic sense, but in the sense of just not knowing what to do. It might be that I... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 45-year-old man, and I can’t believe I’m admitting this, but I’ve been scammed by someone I met on a popular dating app that I won’t name because this is embarrassing enough ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 27-year-old cisgender man and I’m in love with one of my closest female friends, but she doesn’t love me back. My friend and I have known each other for around a year and a h... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Long time reader here. I am sure that you have received this letter many times before however I have long been stuck in a dry spell which I can’t get out of, partly because of my m... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have been approached by another man in my local autistic self-advocacy group. He knows I’m a kinkster and wants me to help him enter the scene so he can find a kinky girlfriend.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 36-year-old man and I’ve been divorced for two months. My wife and I had been married for ten years and together since we were eighteen when we both had to agree that our rel... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve messaged before and been a different alias here. I’m uh, messaging again because I find myself in this existential break point of whether or not it’s even possible to find lov... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve recently found myself in a new situation, one I’m completely unprepared for.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 36-year-old trans woman who has been struggling hard with social anxiety, trauma from past bullying and depression. Lately I’d been making quite a lot of progress, including ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I(34M) am dating my girlfriend(33F) for 6 months now. I have been single most of my adult life, whereas she had a 10 year relationship with her ex but they lost their love around t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have been attending martial arts classes for a couple months now – and I have a huge crush on the instructor. He’s funny, kind, patient, talented, and very handsome.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m in my first romantic relationship. I knew going in that it was statistically unlikely to work out, so I tried not to get my hopes up, but I’m still crushed. My partner and I ha... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been reading advice after advice, letter after letter. And your advice boils down to “tough it up”. I have autism and none of this has been helpful.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ll get right to it. I’m 25, male, have never been romantically/physically involved with anybody, and have a crippling fear of rejection. This is all pretty run of the mill, but I... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I grew up pretty isolated from everyone. My parents emphasized that getting good grades should be my first priority when going to school, and as such, I was able to get a lot of sc... more