DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Here are the basics: I have a friend, we’ll call her June. Me and June go to the same school. Both of us have social anxiety, and she has ADHD. Both of us don’t have a lot of friend... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a mid-40’s woman who’s been single for almost 3 years now, working full-time and going to school part-time for a master’s degree in a challenging program, because I want to chan... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Big fan here, though I admit I’ve been more of a silent observer until now. My situation’s got me stumped, and I could really use your help.... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I realized I was asexual a while ago but why do I still have a yearning to be in a relationship? I feel a sense of anxiety like I feel like I’m f--king up or I’m a creep around othe... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: About six months ago, I (m/22) began dating Jamie (f/22)(not her real name). We were introduced through an on-campus comic and geek interest club. We got along great, we had intense... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 27 year old cis virgin and I don’t like it, not one bit. Because in the year of our God Emperor 2023 confessing to being older virgin especially to women is an incredibly risk... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: One of my best friends is going through a lot right now. A tornado wrecked her house earlier this year and the�amount of paperwork is seemingly endless. Not long before that she dis... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Years ago after both I and several gal friends failed to find me a senior prom date, I confided to a close friend and mentor about being pretty down over not being able to date at a... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have been in this relationship for almost 5 years and it has been great. It’s actually been wonderful. There are alignment issues though…... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have a… predicament. I seem to potentially be in a scenario where I have to choose between downgrading my friendships and working towards having a partner, and it kind of sucks. N... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Thank you for your insightful advice on the blog. I (26F) have a relationship issue with my boyfriend (29M). We just started dating only 2 weeks after 2 months of being kinda-close ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a longtime reader, and have even tried putting some of your advice into practice, but likely haven’t put as much effort as I should have. My question is: how do I get started?... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been following your column for some time and while I find your dating advice pretty solid, I’m more interested in developing close friendships in my life and not necessarily re... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been using dating apps and I’m starting to think that all they do is make me feel awful with no upside. Here’s the deal: I’m a guy in my early 30s, I’m trying to date and it se... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am a girl and I’m facing a bit of a problem with my relationship. I have a boyfriend and I also have a guy who has a crush on me. Recently the boy with a crush told me that my boy... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been reading your stuff recently because I’m having a problem and I don’t think you’ve ever answered a question like mine.... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: In recent years I have grown increasingly aware of my failures to find a partner of any sort, and it has begun to eat at my confidence and happiness.... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m 32 at the end of July and I’ve never even kissed, still got the v-card. Had social anxiety my whole life so far (Asperger’s Syndrome side effect) and it has made it nearly impos... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I wrote to you previously about dealing with a breakup a few months ago, as Second and Third Thoughts, so thanks for the response then. Since then I’ve been doing alright and made s... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve got a conflict that’s not really about dating, but I could really use some advice on how to navigate this tricky situation.��So here’s the deal: my close friends, let’s call th... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve seen you talk about weird sex stuff in relationships before, but I don’t think I’ve seen anything like the issue I’m having right now.��Some backstory: I’ve been married for fo... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: A phenomena I’d like some help untangling is why do so many folks (mostly women that look open and very liberal in my experience) specify that they are looking for casual dating/hoo... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a longtime reader of your blog, and have successfully navigated the dating world and am now in a committed, two-year relationship. Finally! However, with any new stage of life c... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So the thing is, I (25/F) met this guy (28/M) about 3 months ago through a dating app, and I initially just wanted to hook up instead of being in a serious relationship. But on our ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been following you since I was in middle school and now I’m 20 and working. What I wanna ask is how do detect red flags in a friend who keeps doing you dirty consistently?... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been doing some soul-searching lately about my self-worth and what I can bring to a relationship, and I’m hoping your perspective on a dilemma I’ve caught myself in could help ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Long time reader here. I am struggling with a number of dating issues which I can’t find the solution to. I am 31 years old and barely had any success, due to the fact that partly i... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I got wound up with what is and is not relevant, so essentially I have just put a narrative and then questions as the end. I honestly don’t know if it’s even possible to answer them... more