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DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have a friend who’s overly endowed in the penis area. He somehow makes this fact known in every situation that he seems to be in, which is his prerogative, but when it encroaches... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Last year summer of 2023, I ended my engagement with a man I was with for five years. He lost his job, fell into a major depression which led to substance abuse, which resulted in ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I recently found your page and I have read a bunch of your posts and I think you have generally good advice but one thing I haven’t been able to find much of is about the talking p... more

DOCTOR’S NOTE: Today’s column involves discussion of suicide, suicidal ideation and self-harm.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: How does one have an abundance mentality when one doesn’t actually have anything close to, well, abundance.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 35 year old man with an annoying problem: I’m having a hard time orgasming during partnered sex. This is a relatively new thing for me. Before now, I’ve been pretty standard ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: How do you date if your depression isn’t fixable?... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Two years ago I started taking classes for a hobby of mine, with the main bulk of the attendees being women. Throughout my life I’ve found that I get along with women more than I d... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Recently, my relationship ended. We had been together for about six months, and while this was my first relationship, it wasn’t her first. There was no cheating or animosity betwee... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am an American and I am in a relationship with a man who lives in Far-off Foreign Country With a Very Difficult Housing Market. The original plan was going to be that I would get... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 & a half years. Last summer he came to me and said he was poly. He wants a future with me & made all these promises that are no longer t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a nerd myself, and I have a bit of a conundrum. So, I’m a guy who’s currently trying to date. The problem? I’m a man who wants to be “the woman” in a relationship; I’m submissi... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve seem to have a very toxic relationship with my own virginity especially my mid 20s. I hate it, I despise it and I distain and frankly honestly want to get rid of this burden t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Many years ago I met someone on one occasion and we became very close over text. I let him down and never met up with him one time like I said I would. But still we kept in touch. ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been reading one of your more recent columns about if you need to be perfect to get a date. The short answer is “No” (obviously), and I know you’ve covered the topic in detail... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Your advice and one of your books has been really useful in the past, so I’d really appreciate your input if you can find the time to squeeze me in.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m in a bit of a tricky situation. To make a long story shorter, I met a guy while working overseas. At the time we were both married. Due to the nature of our work, we found ours... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: What’s up, Doc? I’ll keep this one short and sweet: I’ve got anxiety and I hate it. It doesn’t matter how well things are going, there is a voice in the back of my mind that will t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So a bit of background: I’m 45 and last year had a my first ever serious relationship of 6 years come to an end. Also to note I live on an island of the northwest of Scotland so it... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I work in customer service , not exactly a professional level career, but it’s not flipping burgers. I actually like my job, while not the best, the pay is decent , I get to work f... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Something that has been bothering me is the pressure to be that interesting, fun, funny, good looking etc. etc. etc. guy that women go absolutely nuts over. I’m not talking about t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Is there some amount of time where people should be forgiven for past indiscretions? Especially if those acts lead to something good? ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m an older guy, married for 23 years and divorced for ten, with a dating frustration. The issue is, I’m a big picture guy and I go for it, across a number of domains but mainly t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I recently learned that about half of adults have HSV-1, the virus that has oral herpes. Unfortunately, the virus can spread through really common activities like kissing or sharin... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: When we spoke during a coaching session a month or so back, you told me that there really is no reason to hide that I’ve never had a relationship before. You also gave a really goo... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So I’ve come to learn a very painful lesson that we’ll not matter what I do I don’t belong anywhere really or with any community. I love making art but you’re not stereotypical art... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I had a kind of friends with benefits relationships (situationship, I know you hate it) with a very nerdy guy.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My husband and I’ve been together for many years now (married three, together seven) and while we’ve both been somewhat vanilla our whole lives, we’ve decided that our sex lives ha... more