No one wants to think about or plan for what happens after someone passes away. Yet there is no way around the fact that life does come to an end at some point in time, most likely well within a 100-year time span.
More than 3 million deaths occurred in the United States in 2024, including the very young (about 30,000 age 14 and younger), according to provisional statistics provided by the National Center for Health Statistics (tinyurl.com/3epvsvrn).
Because of the inevitable, you might think that everyone would try to make things easier on their families by organizing their affairs. However, that is not the case for 55% of Americans who have no estate plan (as reported in the 2025 Estate Planning Report survey of 10,000 respondents conducted by the website Trust & Will -- tinyurl.com/3umxc8yp).
From my perspective of more than 30 years of working with high-net-worth families, I can tell you that it's a mistake to leave things to chance. Like so many things that affect assets, individuals often are simply not educated sufficiently when it comes to planning for the future.
However, helpful tools are available.
Two -- estateexec.com and executor.org -- focus on the role of serving as an executor of an estate.
Another resource helps with planning ahead. Called Buriedinwork.com, the website was founded by Adam Zuckerman, an estate attorney who became the executor of his father's estate in 2023 and found the experience "overwhelming, emotional, and full of hidden hurdles."
If you don't know where to start, the Plan Ahead section begins with an Estate Organization Quiz, which makes a key point in response to the question "Do you have a system in place to track and collect your critical information and end-of-life wishes?": "[W]hile you think you're organized, the question will only be answered after it's no longer possible for you to help."
Take a look at the Estate Essentials bundle that includes an estate summary worksheet and a planning pyramid. (The CLEAR Kit, which is offered for a fee, provides more comprehensive estate organizing options.)
Also look at "What a Will Does (and Doesn't Do)"; "There Are Three Ways to Create a Will" (I'd recommend the one involving a lawyer); and "Will Requirements by State" (tinyurl.com/38ph28rs).
You'll also find "What to Do When Someone Dies" (which discusses steps you need to take within the first few days, along with handling funeral plans and financial affairs), "How to Update your Estate and Finances After Divorce" (as well as a separate checklist that covers the same topics when getting married), and "How to Select the Right Legal Guardian for Your Children" (topics include "Evaluate Their Parenting Style and Values" and "Assess Their Financial Stability").
Another resource (for a fee) is Buried in Work's "After Loss To-Do List Consultation," which includes a 60-minute one-on-one Zoom or phone call that occurs within 72 hours of booking and involves an end-of-life expert who will guide the caller through "essential action items" to help avoid missing deadlines (tinyurl.com/afxesevr).
One of the issues when trying to plan ahead is how to talk about the future with family members. For a fee, there is "One More Story," which seeks to engage family members in storytelling, and "Nothing Left Unsaid" and "EOL (End of Life)," which help promote conversations about topics involving end-of-life issues and estate planning (tinyurl.com/5cb8uzjc).
To reiterate, planning ahead for a future event that is sure to happen is no easy task. I can assure you that no matter how difficult it may be to get started, we're talking about simply getting organized so that decisions can be made. With more complex situations, finances, income and estate taxes, and legacy wishes all need to be addressed with precision and competence. You want the best for your family after all. Take this opportunity to ensure that your wishes are fulfilled and your family is taken care of.
In a future column, we'll discuss how to find and work with a trusts and estates lawyer.
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