DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So, I’ve got a ‘fun’ one for you. It’s going to have layers upon layers of bulls--t, so please bear with me while I type it all out. Also, I get the impression that most of your au... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m writing because I’ve been stuck in a mental loop that’s slowly poisoning the way I see myself and how I experience desire.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been lurking around your website for years now. And I love your articles. It really helped me.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I wrote you two times (once in October 2020 – “Was This Sexual Abuse” – and I can’t find the second letter), so let’s make a trilogy out of it.... more

Doctor’s Note: Around the start of a new year, I like to look back and re-answer some older questions as I would if I had received them today. Whenever possible, I answer them without having read my p... more

Doctor’s Note: Around the start of a new year, I like to look back and re-answer some older questions as I would if I had received them today. Whenever possible, I answer them without having read my p... more

Doctor’s Note: Around the start of a new year, I like to look back and re-answer some older questions as I would if I had received them today. Whenever possible, I answer them without having read my p... more

Doctor’s Note: Around the start of a new year, I like to look back and re-answer some older questions as I would if I had received them today. Whenever possible, I answer them without having read my p... more

Doctor’s Note: Around the start of a new year, I like to look back and re-answer some older questions as I would if I had received them today. Whenever possible, I answer them without having read my p... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Doctor’s Note: Around the start of a new year, I like to look back and re-answer some older questions as I would if I had received them today. Whenever possible, I answer them with... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My partner and I were broken up and then exploring getting back together while he was also dating a poly person. A few weeks in, he told me he’s poly and that’s non-negotiable. I t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: When I first make a dating app profile, I feel a bit of hope that inevitably fades away after a couple weeks of no matches. I wish I could have a mutual infatuation with someone, b... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m an average looking man, and I think this means I’ll only ever pair up with average looking women. Because studies have shown that assortive mating is real. Meaning that people ... more