DEAR MISS MANNERS: Please help my spouse and me with a disagreement.
Firstly, I believe that no one should have to walk into the bathroom to use the toilet and be confronted with the leftover “markings” of the previous user. I believe that it is both bad hygiene and terrible manners to leave signs of your waste for the next user. Each person should clean up after themselves!
Secondly, the toilet brush is for cleaning the toilet with cleaning products and for getting under the seat areas, not for cleaning your leftovers markings! If you use the toilet brush for that, you are basically leaving a brush full of poop particles to fester in that little holder in your bathroom! Personally, if leftovers do not fully flush, I take a wad of toilet paper and very carefully clean the mess myself, then drop it and flush it. I am very thorough about hand-washing, so feel this is the most hygienic option.
My spouse thinks it is perfectly fine to leave the leftover markings for days, and then once in a while, take the toilet brush and clean them all out with that. He says that using toilet paper instead of the toilet brush is unhygienic!
I have decided to use separate bathrooms for now, as I am getting pretty disgusted! It was not so bad pre-COVID, but we are sharing the house 24/7 now and I cannot take it!!!
Please! Tell us both the proper etiquette for toilet cleaning -- both when and how!!
GENTLE READER: Often and thoroughly. While glancing back at one’s expulsions is a disgusting affair, it is a necessary one to determine if they have been properly jettisoned. If it’s all the same, however, Miss Manners will stop short of recommending a particular method for cleaning it, as long as it is one where no excrement remains visible or odorous in any way. She will leave you to it.