DEAR MISS MANNERS: After sending us a “save the date” notice for a fall wedding, our nephew called to say that he and his intended were overwhelmed by wedding plans, especially the family pressure to include relatives they scarcely know.
They decided instead to elope to the Southwest. We agreed it was a great plan, and thought no more about it. That is, until learning that what had evolved was actually a destination wedding, complete with a dinner and a reception, to which “close friends and relatives” are invited -- my husband’s sister among them -- though we are not!
I am feeling miffed! Am I out of line?
GENTLE READER: No, just out of favor. While this whole procedure was clearly rude, Miss Manners recommends that you consider yourself lucky -- and that much richer -- for not having spent money on a forced vacation with (apparently distant) relatives. As an added bonus, she permits you to forgo the present that she feels certain will be solicited, and suggests you reward yourself with an actual vacation.