DEAR MISS MANNERS: Does the general opprobrium against women wearing white to someone else’s wedding also apply if it is a wedding between two men?
I have a white cocktail dress with a significant amount of black detailing along its sides. It would never be confused for a wedding dress, but I have refrained from wearing it to weddings and rehearsal dinners to avoid any risk of offense. As a result, it doesn’t leave my closet very often.
I am attending a wedding between two men. I am absolutely certain neither will be in a dress. May I wear mine?
GENTLE READER: Might there be an additional reason that you should not wear this dress to that wedding? Is it possible that the attending staff, and perhaps even uninformed guests, might mistake you for the bride?
Miss Manners supposes not. But if the bridal couple favors the tradition that deems both white and black unsuitable in a guest’s dress, that would be a good reason. She will refrain from asking why you bought a dress that you have no occasion to wear.