DEAR MISS MANNERS: My son's ex-wife is pregnant with my grandchild. Their separation has been tense, especially with her family blaming my son for the breakup.
I have been invited to her baby shower, where her mother and family will be. I really don't feel comfortable attending, knowing how the family has treated my son, but the baby's mother really wants me there.
Should I go and, if not, how do I get out of it without hurting the baby's mother's feelings? If I do go, how do I handle the cool reception her family will give me?
GENTLE READER: That the person who will be rearing your grandchild still considers you family is something you want to encourage. Having recommended a cool reception for those who, unlike yourself, have done something wrong, Miss Manners can assure you that, though unpleasant, it is not fatal. And it is nothing compared to being dependent on a judge's order to see your grandchild.