DEAR ABBY: My son "Jake" was born last June. His father was a good friend who I thought I loved and that he loved me. The day I told him I was pregnant, he disappeared.
Our baby boy just passed away from SIDS. I'm struggling with Jake's loss and planning his funeral while taking care of my 5-year-old son. Jake's father had his mother call and threaten me. She said, "His name better not be listed anywhere in the obituary!"
I'm at a loss about how to deal with both of them. I did not list the father's name anywhere, but it was my choice. After the funeral I'm not sure if I want to see either one of them ever again. Any advice? -- GRIEVING IN COLORADO
DEAR GRIEVING: I am so sorry for the loss of your baby boy. Yes, I do have a word of advice. Even in the midst of your grief, you are thinking clearly. Why you would ever want contact with either of those despicable individuals again is beyond me. Feel free to write them off and go on with your life.