DEAR ABBY: I recently married a loving man who works full-time and is studying for his MBA online. A few months ago, he received a promotion and was transferred to another state, so after our wedding I moved here to be with him.
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While he was living here alone before our wedding, he got into some trouble with the law and he's now on probation. He was never in trouble before. I have no family or friends here, and he can't go out and socialize to meet new people now that he's under those strict guidelines.
I have always been popular and have many friends back home, but I'm lonely and depressed now. I moved here because I love him, but I can't get over the fact that this has dampened our first year as husband and wife. How should I handle the future of our marriage and our life here with all these unsettling issues he has put me in? -- HURT WIFE IN MICHIGAN
DEAR HURT WIFE: Unless your husband is under house arrest -- which probation is not -- he can socialize. He can make friends through work, and look for volunteer opportunities if he has the time. Both will help him to make connections with constructive people. The same is true for you to help you connect with the community.
I know this is a big adjustment for you, but in time you can both put this unfortunate chapter behind you. I wish you both a future filled with success.