DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I don’t have anything personally against the young man at all. As a matter of fact, I think he is a good guy. But my granddaughter started dating a cop she met through a class they were both taking, and her daddy and her brothers don’t treat him very nice.

You could say our family history with law enforcement has not been a happy one. My son says he feels like the man is checking everyone and everything out whenever he visits his house and it makes him uneasy.

I try what I can to smooth the way for my granddaughter and her new man. He seems alright to me, but I am not the one who has a history with the law.

She asked me if I think it’s worth it, this new relationship she is in. He seems to make her happy. But I know her daddy’s feelings about the man, and I have started asking around for advice to give my granddaughter about her and her boyfriend. --- COP SEEMS OKAY

DEAR COP SEEMS OKAY: If your granddaughter and her boyfriend are forming a strong bond, it would be a shame for her to turn away from him just to please her father and brothers.

Based on my observations of several police officers I’ve known, they prefer to leave the job behind them at the end of their workday, just like most people.

There is perhaps an element of being more on call than is common in other professions, but if your family members have no reason to fear a lawman at the moment, they should have no reason to resent your granddaughter’s boyfriend, so long as he treats her with respect.

Hopefully, if the relationship progresses, your son and the others who object to the new man will have opportunities to realize he’s the decent person you perceive him to be.

In the meantime, your continued support of your granddaughter’s choice could play a big part in her decision on whether or not to give up her love interest simply to make her father and brothers less uncomfortable with someone in his line of work.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Every time a bunch of us from work go out for happy hour one of the guys on our team, who is the quietest, most polite guy you can imagine meeting at the office, who puts up with our sometimes nasty boss without saying a word, becomes a loudmouth a-hole when he has a few.

He starts cussing and talking overly loud about our bosses and especially his parents, and anyone who pisses him off somehow. His father is a special target because as he has told me, even when he isn’t drinking, his dad is this over-the-top anti-drinking and anti-drugs type.

We try to bring him back down to his normal self before he heads for home, but that means at least one of us has to hang around for a couple extra hours, get some food into him, keeps it down, and make sure he calls an Uber instead of trying to drive himself home.

Most of the time I get to be the one who stays because I guess I feel sorry for him and a little protective, since he is our kind of little brother at work.

I have thought of trying to get him into some kind of therapy or at least counseling. His drunk personality is so different from who he usually is, it makes me think something very unhealthy is going on with him.

Would it be overstepping to talk to him about maybe getting some help with his anger and maybe drinking issues, because the more I see of him a few drinks in, the more convinced I am he’s got some? --- NOT USUALLY THAT WAY

DEAR NOT USUALLY THAT WAY: It sounds like your coworker may perhaps benefit from some sort of counseling.

Persuading him to at least consider seeking it, however, could be challenging. It’s quite possible he doesn’t have a firm grasp on how drinking changes his personality and strips him of his inhibitions.

Given the overall situation, it might be a good idea for you to get some general professional recommendations on how to approach your coworker before you try to talk to him about what happens to him under the influence of liquor.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My sister says it’s just because we’re so much alike, but my father has set up this constant competition with me that is becoming a major PITA.

I keep hearing how when he was my age he already had done whatever it is I happen to currently be working on. It can be on my school’s basketball team or in Spanish Club, or last time the National Honor Society.

When I do tell him something I did that normal parents would be impressed by, like when I was made captain of both varsity teams I played on this year, he gives me the so what attitude and starts comparing what he can still do as “an old man” that’s better than what I did or can do.

Do you think this is normal? --- NEVER ENOUGH TO IMPRESS MY DAD

DEAR NEVER ENOUGH TO IMPRESS MY DAD: Your father’s reactions may not be normal in general, but they’re certainly not unique.

There’s often a natural competitiveness between younger men and their fathers that I’m betting goes back as far as humans have been around.

Your father’s possibly dealing with some of the insecurities that come with the territory of getting older. It happens to the best of us.

It might be a good idea to let him know you’re not, in fact, competing with him. Rather, you’re just working through your own goals and achieving your own milestones — on your own timetable.

It’s unlikely this will be a magic fix, but at least perhaps the approach will allow you to get some frustration with your dad off your chest by letting him know you’re fine with how you’re living your life.