DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Every time a bunch of us from work go out for happy hour one of the guys on our team, who is the quietest, most polite guy you can imagine meeting at the office, who puts up with our sometimes nasty boss without saying a word, becomes a loudmouth a-hole when he has a few.

He starts cussing and talking overly loud about our bosses and especially his parents, and anyone who pisses him off somehow. His father is a special target because as he has told me, even when he isn’t drinking, his dad is this over-the-top anti-drinking and anti-drugs type.

We try to bring him back down to his normal self before he heads for home, but that means at least one of us has to hang around for a couple extra hours, get some food into him, keeps it down, and make sure he calls an Uber instead of trying to drive himself home.

Most of the time I get to be the one who stays because I guess I feel sorry for him and a little protective, since he is our kind of little brother at work.

I have thought of trying to get him into some kind of therapy or at least counseling. His drunk personality is so different from who he usually is, it makes me think something very unhealthy is going on with him.

Would it be overstepping to talk to him about maybe getting some help with his anger and maybe drinking issues, because the more I see of him a few drinks in, the more convinced I am he’s got some? --- NOT USUALLY THAT WAY

DEAR NOT USUALLY THAT WAY: It sounds like your coworker may perhaps benefit from some sort of counseling.

Persuading him to at least consider seeking it, however, could be challenging. It’s quite possible he doesn’t have a firm grasp on how drinking changes his personality and strips him of his inhibitions.

Given the overall situation, it might be a good idea for you to get some general professional recommendations on how to approach your coworker before you try to talk to him about what happens to him under the influence of liquor.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My sister says it’s just because we’re so much alike, but my father has set up this constant competition with me that is becoming a major PITA.

I keep hearing how when he was my age he already had done whatever it is I happen to currently be working on. It can be on my school’s basketball team or in Spanish Club, or last time the National Honor Society.

When I do tell him something I did that normal parents would be impressed by, like when I was made captain of both varsity teams I played on this year, he gives me the so what attitude and starts comparing what he can still do as “an old man” that’s better than what I did or can do.

Do you think this is normal? --- NEVER ENOUGH TO IMPRESS MY DAD

DEAR NEVER ENOUGH TO IMPRESS MY DAD: Your father’s reactions may not be normal in general, but they’re certainly not unique.

There’s often a natural competitiveness between younger men and their fathers that I’m betting goes back as far as humans have been around.

Your father’s possibly dealing with some of the insecurities that come with the territory of getting older. It happens to the best of us.

It might be a good idea to let him know you’re not, in fact, competing with him. Rather, you’re just working through your own goals and achieving your own milestones — on your own timetable.

It’s unlikely this will be a magic fix, but at least perhaps the approach will allow you to get some frustration with your dad off your chest by letting him know you’re fine with how you’re living your life.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My husband and I were in our 40s when our first granddaughter was born. She was the first of four so far, and she is now 12 and two more are on their way by mid-spring.

We absolutely love our grandchildren, but the older ones can be proper little snots sometimes when it comes to how my husband and I deal with all the latest technology.

While we both still work and have to stay on top of the apps and devices we use on our respective jobs, the devices and games our grandchildren like and use — too much if you ask me — can take my husband and me time to be comfortable with. For that, we are teased and taunted, not only by our grandchildren, but sometimes their 30-something parents join in and it bothers me.

We are not stupid people, yet why do our children and grandchildren treat us as if we are sometimes? --- NO DUMMIES

DEAR NO DUMMIES: There’s nothing new in younger generations mocking what they see as the shortcomings of their elders.

Maybe it’s not such a bad idea to occasionally remind your children and grandchildren that each generation has something to teach and something to learn, and that’s how the world moves on.

Also take heart in the fact that it isn’t just those of us over a certain age who struggle with the constantly changing world of technology.

More than once I’ve seen much younger colleagues as stumped as I am by changes and updates, which seem to come along more frequently than we average mortals can reasonably be expected to keep up with.