DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My daughter was supposed to get married last September. Rather than have a pared down event, she and her fiancé decided to reschedule the wedding to later this year. They were able to retain their venue and all their providers but one, who sadly, didn’t survive the downturn in business.
Since she was a teen, our daughter has battled weight issues, largely complicated by necessary medications she will probably be on for the rest of her life. The pandemic hasn’t helped, and she has gained enough weight to keep her from fitting in her wedding gown, which was custom-made by the bridal shop that is now shuttered, being the one casualty so far. At least she already had the gown at home when they closed their doors.
My daughter, who has always been very conscious about her weight, has been making herself sick over the gown. She was originally two sizes smaller when the gown was ordered and made. I keep telling her not to get too upset, since a good tailor should be able to fix the situation, but so far it has not helped. And then, when I reminded her she still has time to work on her weight, that really set her off, and she has barely spoken to me since.
What else can I do to not make things worse, but instead, convince her she has options? --- MOTHER OF THE DELAYED BRIDE
DEAR MOTHER OF THE DELAYED BRIDE: I agree with you that your daughter needs to be mindful of having time to find solutions to the gown situation. I’m also with you in your confidence that skilled tailors are magicians, and finding one in your area, who would take time to explain possible options is the way to go.
If you don’t know which tailor to contact, you may be able to get recommendations from the other service providers, or through wedding websites such as The Knot. I’m sure your daughter isn’t the only bride facing this type of complication, and getting a little guidance from impartial (aka, not Mom) resources may allay some of her anxiety.