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Which Babysitter Gets the Job?

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | February 27th, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: When our usual babysitter was sick with the flu on the night of my husband’s company banquet, we hired her slightly younger sister. The kids loved her, telling us she did a lot more with them and wasn’t texting the whole time, like our usual sitter is. We also got a really good feeling from the substitute. Instead of just taking the money and running, she let us know how the night went.

Moving forward, we want to hire her when we go out, but how do I tell her big sister we don’t need her anymore? --- ONE BABYSITTER TOO MANY

DEAR ONE BABYSITTER TOO MANY: This would be awkward even if the sitters weren’t also sisters.

One solution may be to work out a rotation between the two when you need coverage. You could explain you want to give both a chance to make a little money.

It isn’t impossible that the older sister might jump at letting someone else take over, so she has either more social time or the opportunity to get work outside of babysitting that offers more — or at least more regular — earnings.

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Mom Fears a Semester Break May Lead to a Permanent One

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | February 25th, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I am the single mother of a wonderful 18-year-old girl. She is a star student who graduated from high school last year with both her diploma and an associate degree from college. I have always encouraged her to pursue a challenging career that uses her considerable skills in math and science. As such, she chose a major in pharmacy. 

Last month she told me she is not going to school this semester. She wants to take a break until summer, when she hopes to transfer to another school with a better pharmacy program. (She was previously accepted to this program, but rejected them. As for the transfer, with high requirements, this is unlikely since her grades went down considerably this past fall).  

In my experience, students who “take time off” never go back to school. I told her I cannot support this decision, and that this is a poor decision resulting from the previous poor decisions to overload her schedule at an unsupportive party school in an attempt to rush to graduate. She stated, “No problem, I will just move out.” 

  Am I being inflexible and unfair? She has worked very hard for a long time. However, what kind of mother would I be if I continue to let her make self-destructive and childish decisions? Should I allow her to move out, or should I support her (financially and emotionally) while she “takes a break” from preparing for her future? --- TOTALLY PUT OUT IN ATLANTA

DEAR TOTALLY PUT OUT IN ATLANTA: Taking a break has become quite common; so is the burn-out experienced by kids who have been knuckled down and studious all the way through high school.

Since your daughter graduated high school with a degree that generally takes two years of fulltime study to complete, she’s proven her ability and desire to work hard, and now, it’s just possible she needs a break. Her first choice of colleges may not have turned out so well, but that doesn’t mean she’s ready to walk away from completing a four- or more-year program.

With the spring semester already underway, letting her take the next few months to work and get a taste of life outside of school might help her towards a clearer decision about her next steps. Your giving her a little space and a chance to make her own decisions — even if you believe them to be poor ones — could be a big part of making her time at home less stressful for both of you.

Her ride, though, shouldn’t be a free one. She should earn money and contribute to your household income. Holding down a job is a worthy education for any young adult, and she’ll be learning real world lessons that could prove infinitely more useful than a semester abroad.

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Granddaughter Worries About Recently-Widowed Grandma

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | February 21st, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My grandpa passed late last July. He and my grandma would have been married 60 years this June and Grandpa’s birthday is exactly a week after their anniversary. It’s going to be a rough few weeks for my grandma; I’m thinking rougher than the first holiday season she had to go through without him last year.

What can I do to help my grandmother through what she has to face over the next few weeks? I almost think not making a big deal about the wedding anniversary, birthday, and death anniversary would be better for her --- CONCERNED GRANDDAUGHTER

DEAR CONCERNED GRANDDAUGHTER: I don’t believe ignoring these important events will make your grandmother’s grief any less. Facing these days for the first time without her husband will be tough enough, and perhaps you can work together with other family members or some of your grandmother’s close friends to see if they have any ideas of how to honor your grandfather’s memory and the life he and your grandmother made together. Those who know her best can hopefully suggest ways to comfort and support her on what could be very difficult days ahead.

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