DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: When my partner and I started going together, we were both into LARPing (live action role playing), although she was always more into it than I was. Now, it’s all she does every weekend and for the past two vacations we’ve had.
This year I want to do a road trip to visit some friends we both have from college, but she just wants to follow the same LARPing festivals we’ve done for, like, forever.
I love her, but I also want a life outside of just one interest. Should I just take my own vacation, or do I pressure her to join me, if for no other reason than to break the spell? --- LEFT IN THE LARPING DUST
DEAR LEFT IN THE LARPING DUST: Any hobby can turn into an obsession, and if you think that’s where your partner’s interests are heading, you might want to openly let her know your concerns, if you haven’t already discussed it with her.
It sounds like it may be time for your partner to do a little compromising, especially if the LARPing she’s into is year-round and you’re just trying to get in a vacation that offers a change of scene and some time with friends. If she pushes back, then by all means make your own plans ─ and follow through with them.