DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I was with a guy from my freshman to my senior year of college. We broke up right before we graduated last spring because I found out he was cheating on me with a girl from his work. All these years my mom has absolutely loved this guy as a future son-in-law. She was nearly as upset over the breakup as I was, but at least I knew why it happened. She doesn’t know yet and I don’t know if I should tell her, especially since she keeps unfavorably comparing the new guy in my life to the one who stomped on my heart. Should I tell her the truth or let her keep her little fantasy of my ex? --- MORE INFORMED DAUGHTER
DEAR MORE INFORMED: I think it’s time you told your mother the truth about what happened with guy number 1, if for no other reason than to inspire her to let up on guy number 2. You don’t have to go into gory details, but she deserves a shot at putting things in perspective.