Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Tech-loving Grandson Complicates Gift-Giving

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Our 11-year-old grandson was a “surprise” to his parents. As such, he is nearly 18 years younger than his next oldest sibling, and, as far as we can tell, nearly a whole different generation.

When his sisters and brother were his age, they seemed to like a lot of the same kinds of toys and games their father, our son, liked when he was a kid. The youngest only wants to play video and on-line games. I know it frustrates his parents, who have said they refuse to buy him any more games, and it doesn’t make it easy for us and his other grandmother to get him gifts.

With Christmas coming, we want to get a start on shopping, and don’t want to cause friction with his parents or waste money on something our grandson will have no use for.

What’s a grandparent to do? --- GRANDPARENTS OF A BIG GAMER

DEAR GRANDPARENTS OF A BIG GAMER: Seems to me it’s time all the grandparents and your grandson’s mom and dad have a discussion about what is and isn’t acceptable from the parental perspective. I agree there’s no point wasting money on unwanted gifts, and there may be some things that your grandson could use that may be less fun than another video game, but which may serve him better in the long run. If his parents don’t have anything to suggest, you might want to have some ideas of your own to run by them.

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