DEAR HARRIETTE: My grandfather is in his 70s. At his age, some of his closest friends have passed away. I want to help my grandfather make more friends because I am so saddened by his losses. I could never imagine losing my supportive friends.
I don't even know how to get this endeavor started. I mentioned to my grandpa that he should find some new friends, and he got defensive, saying he has all he needs. I just want him to stay social and not feel lonely. How can I make friends for my grandpa? -- Older Social Butterfly, Silver Spring, Maryland
DEAR OLDER SOCIAL BUTTERFLY: You should listen to your grandfather. He knows himself. Unless he starts acting reclusive or otherwise different, do not assume that he is in need of friends. Having grandchildren is a huge blessing for older people. Your presence in his life is likely far more important than a reduced number of friendships. Young people keep older people vital. My strongest recommendation would be to commit to spending more time with your grandfather, whether it's talking on the phone, going on visits or simply being together.
Outside of that, if your grandfather ever expresses interest in broadening his activities, look for a senior center in his area. Many of these centers offer daytime engagements that can be fun and uplifting for their participants.
(Harriette Cole is a life stylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Universal Uclick, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)