DEAR HARRIETTE: When times are hard, I try to think positive and stay strong. I've been incarcerated for one year with one more year left on my sentence. I can't go into detail about my circumstances; however, I will note that I previously worked in the banking industry and that I have never been abusive, stolen, murdered anyone or done anything like these extreme cases. I am married, and I have one beautiful daughter who means the world to me. Since I have been in prison, my wife's visits have begun to decrease and the responses to my letters have been on the decline. I am beginning to believe that my wife might be cheating on me. I understand it's definitely not easy for her to be alone, but I just don't know what to think at this point. What do you think? -- Almost Home, Racine, Wisconsin
DEAR ALMOST HOME: With a year left before you return home, you need to stay positive. Do your best not to worry about that which you cannot control. Instead, focus on what you will do when you are released. How will you earn a living? Figure that out.
As far as your family goes, continue to write to your wife. Describe your plans for the future and ask her if she is willing to re-establish your family when you get out. Ask her not to give up on you.
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