Dear Ilana and Jess: Well, it’s time for Christmas shopping. My kids, both eleven, want to help shop for family members this year. The process is disorganized as it is. How can my husband and I make it better while incorporating the kids? — Louise
Dear Louise: There are lots of ways to organize Christmas shopping; the key is finding a setup that works best for you. Assigning each family member another to shop for can be a simple (and familiar) way to streamline the process. It will also allow you to cut costs. Another simple way to organize shopping is to have each family member write down their wish list. Set a budget and have everyone add gifts that are within range.
Now is the perfect time to teach your kids how to save their money. To make shopping more doable for them, you might ask that they each buy a gift for one parent, or pool their allowance together for a gift that can be enjoyed by the family. If the kids don’t have an allowance, you might have them do some chores around the house to earn their Christmas funds. It’s a great way to empower the kids to work toward an end goal and make their own contribution. If they want to participate in the shopping, let them run with it!
Finally, remember that any good plan begins with preparation. Before anyone starts to shop, sit down as a family to make it clear who will be responsible for what. Post a checklist in a communal area of the home and have everyone keep track of the steps they’ve fulfilled. If you have a lot of people to shop for, you might also consider creating a spreadsheet to track purchases and expenses.
Say This: (To the kids) “We’re so glad that you want to help out this year! Let’s talk about how this is going to work. First, create a wish list for yourselves; we’ll do the same.”
Not That: “We’ve got a lot going on during Christmas shopping. There’s really nothing for you two to do.”
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