DEAR HARRIETTE: I am struggling with where I am in my career. I am 53 years old and have been doing the same thing my entire life. I was fortunate enough to know what I wanted to do at a very young age. I worked hard and got my dream job as an engineer. Recently, my company has hired a new CEO. He and I do not get along, but at the end of the day, he is my superior. I find myself not enjoying what I do anymore. This has made me think about switching companies. I am torn because I have been with this company for more than 25 years. What do you think is the best way to go about this? Should I talk to my CEO first or other colleagues? -- Should I Stay or Should I Go?, Detroit
DEAR SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO?: If you talk to your CEO, do not issue ultimatums. Instead, talk to him about his vision and ask how you can support him. Whether you want to leave or not, you should want the new boss to consider you an invaluable asset to the team because of your knowledge and loyalty to the company for so many years. Before attempting to leave, figure out if you can find common ground so that you can stay comfortably.
Even if you decide to look for work, remain positive with the new boss. And be discreet as you shop for a new gig. Being at a job for 25 years shows others your commitment. Your new task will be to prove why you would be of value somewhere else and why you want to leave -- without bad-mouthing your new boss.