DEAR HARRIETTE: I just moved to New York City and into my own apartment -- well, sort of my own apartment. I share a two-bedroom apartment in the East Village with my best friend from high school and her boyfriend. When I agreed to the idea, I was primarily thinking about my finances and how this was the best move for me. What I did not take into consideration was our personalities mixing while we lived together.

One month in, I have realized that my friend and her boyfriend fight more than they don’t fight. They have screaming matches at 11 p.m. when I am trying to fall asleep. I have previously tried telling them to quiet down, but it happens almost every night.

How do I deal with this? I don’t know how I can approach the two of them, because it is their apartment as much as it is mine. -- Sleepless Roommate, Manhattan, New York

DEAR SLEEPLESS ROOMMATE: Sharing an apartment with a couple is typically challenging, even when the two of them get along well. What you are facing sounds harrowing. The only way you will have a chance of getting them to notice their behavior and consider curbing the fights is by talking to them. Schedule a meeting where you agree -- all of you -- to talk about your living arrangements. Start with something positive. If they are tidy, complement them on that and thank them. Anything else that works should be mentioned. Then express your concerns about their constant arguing. Acknowledge that you understand that couples may have disagreements from time to time, but they argue constantly. Tell them that you cannot sleep, and this behavior is disturbing. Ask them to pay attention so they notice how frequently they fight. Beg them to stop. Ultimately, you may need to move.

DEAR HARRIETTE: I baby-sit almost every weekend, and a lot during the week. My "regulars" -- the families I see every week -- have started giving my number out to other families. In addition to that, a lot of my father’s friends ask him if I am available to watch their kids.

One night, I was watching my dad’s friends’ children. There were two boys, ages 6 and 8. The boys were extremely misbehaved, and it was one of the worst baby-sitting experiences I’ve ever had. When the parents came home, they asked me how their children were, and I said they were fine, like I was on autopilot. My question is, do you tell the parents of the kids you are baby-sitting that the boys were bad? Do you think this will lessen my chances of being asked back? Also, does it matter that these are my father’s friends? -- ”The Kids Were Fine” Baby Sitter, Stamford, Connecticut

DEAR “THE KIDS WERE FINE” BABY SITTER: It is important for you to give these parents honest feedback about their children’s behavior. It could be that the boys were testing you, which the parents should know. It could be that this is normal -- which you should know so that you don’t go back to them. Call the parents and tell them that you have some information you feel you should share about your time with their children. Then stick to the facts. Do not get emotional. Be descriptive so they know what happened. Do not involve your father. This is your job.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)

DEAR HARRIETTE: I need some advice about religion and love. I am Catholic, but I do not practice many Catholic traditions. I would not consider religion to be a big part of my identity, but still enjoy partaking in some traditions such as Christmas and Easter. My boyfriend, on the other hand, is Jewish. He would also not consider his religion to be a big part of his identity, but that is not the case for his mother.

My boyfriend's mother is an Orthodox Jewish woman who keeps kosher and follows all the Jewish traditions and rules. She tries to motivate my boyfriend to keep kosher and things like that, but he simply has no interest. I respect his mother’s values as well as my boyfriend’s, but when it comes to discussing marriage with him, he says marrying a Jewish woman is important. I don’t see why this is an important factor in a potential wife when he doesn’t care about it now.

Do you have any insight on why that is, or if I could discuss it further with my boyfriend without starting any drama? -- Not-Kosher Girlfriend, Commack, New York

DEAR NOT-KOSHER GIRLFRIEND: This is an important topic that you should sort out if you think there’s a chance you want to marry this man. In the Jewish tradition, when someone wants to marry a person of a different faith, it is common that the spouse converts to Judaism. For some families, this is acceptable.

I did a bit of research on this topic, and I can tell you that it is rare for a religious Jewish family to agree to an interfaith marriage. That said, many interfaith couples have successfully built lives together. It can mean that they suffer a loss of closeness with one or both families, though. Talk this through together and talk to your parents, all of them, to get a sense of whether you will be strong enough to marry.

DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a college student who has been constantly searching for an internship. I have used my university’s career service center and searched sites like indeed.com and other search engines, but nothing seems to catch my eye. I am open to different types of internship experiences, but was wondering if there are any ways you would recommend a college student go about finding the type of internship they are looking for. -- The Lost Intern, Boston

DEAR THE LOST INTERN: Start by evaluating what interests you. You can select more than one idea if you are unsure, but you do need to have strong opinions about whatever you choose. You must sell yourself to a potential intern coordinator, demonstrating why you should be selected to work with them. This includes being articulate about how you can help them do their work as well as what you would like to learn from them.

When you look at intern listings, look for businesses that do things that interest you. You can also ask your neighbors, your parents’ friends and other adults or local businesses that you like if they have internship opportunities. Many students design their own internships. Give yourself a deadline to apply, and get busy.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)

DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a female college student who, like my peers, is searching for a job and going on interviews. I would consider myself semi-stylish, and I generally know what is appropriate. But when it comes to interview attire, I am at a loss.

I have been applying to both corporate and non-corporate jobs for next spring. Depending on what job you are interviewing for, does it change what you should wear? For example, I am applying for a nanny position as well as a PR associate position. What would you recommend for a female college student to wear on a job interview? -- Outfit-Confused Intern, Madison, Wisconsin

DEAR OUTFIT-CONFUSED INTERN: It is OK to be a bit stylish, but being professional is key for most job interviews.

In the corporate space, it is smart to wear a suit or a dress with sheer hose and dark pumps. In other words, you want to look conservative. Your jewelry should be modest, as should your makeup. What you want is for the interviewer to see you, and your outfit should support that.

For a non-corporate job, you could wear the same interview outfit, or you could wear something that’s a bit more casual. Do research on the company. Look at its website to get a sense of how people look who work there. Never wear jeans. Never wear athletic clothing. These rules are true for all job interviews.

Even for the nanny position, be professional. You do not have to wear pumps, though. You can wear a pair of slacks and a nice blouse. Bring a bag with sneakers and jeans, though, in case the parents ask you to go out and play with the child(ren).

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been dating my high school boyfriend for six years now. We are at different colleges and have been doing a long-distance relationship ever since freshman year. I would consider this a serious relationship.

Recently, I have been wondering if that was the right choice. I have had the greatest experiences with him and he continues to make me very happy, but there is a part of me that thinks we both should experience life with other people, or by ourselves. At the same time, I think to myself, why would I want to break up with someone who makes me so happy? I am torn and was just wondering what your opinion was on long-term relationships at a young age. -- Girl Torn in Half, Dallas

DEAR GIRL TORN IN HALF: It is understandable that you would have these thoughts. There is a risk in every relationship, but especially so with young, long-term lovers. I suggest that the next time you and your boyfriend are in each other’s company, you talk about these thoughts. Ask him if he is having them as well. Be honest. If this is conjecture more than you being interested in someone, be sure to say that. You don’t want to threaten your relationship. Being open about your inner conflict may be hard, but it is much smarter than keeping it to yourself and potentially acting on your feelings without agreeing on next steps with your boyfriend.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)