DEAR HARRIETTE: My sister is full-figured, and she has great style. I decided to get her an item of clothing for Christmas, but I wasn’t sure of the size, so I sent her a text asking her what size she wears. Why did I do that?! She wrote back to me that it was none of my business and asking why was I wanted to know. She accused me of making fun of her size, and she cursed me out. All I wanted to do was get her something nice for Christmas. Now I don’t want to get her anything. She was so rude. Should I let her know why I was asking? -- Not Her Size, Baltimore
DEAR NOT HER SIZE: Take a deep breath and calm down. It is worth it for you to clarify this situation. Call your sister and tell her you want to talk. With her blessing, explain to her that you love her style and thought it would be fun to buy her a fashion item for Christmas. Because you don’t know her size, you thought it best to ask. You were absolutely not trying to insult her. Instead, your intention was to do something special by buying her something cool that would fit. Apologize for hurting her feelings.