DEAR HARRIETTE: I got too drunk at a wedding last weekend. I wish I could say I remember the whole night, but I cannot. I was mortified when I woke up, and I asked my sister what happened. She told me I was so funny and the life of the party -- no harm done.
I didn't make a fool of myself or get destructive at the wedding, but I was too intoxicated. Do I owe the bride and groom an apology? I already know I should never try to keep up with my cousins. -- Hungover Hannah, Boston
DEAR HUNGOVER HANNAH: One person's "didn't make a fool of myself" is not always the same for the next. While it is absolutely true that many people get drunk at weddings, you don't want to risk having been a distraction or embarrassment to your friends without even saying anything about it.
You should definitely reach out to the couple, ask how they are doing and congratulate them on their wedding once again. Listen to them pour out the details of their nuptials. Before you get off the phone, tell them that you must apologize for getting intoxicated at their wedding. Ask for their forgiveness in case you were a distraction in any way.