DEAR HARRIETTE: It is football season again, and I am about to lose my husband for about seven months because he watches football games five nights a week. This is a tough time for me; I am not big fan of the sport, and we got into huge arguments last year because I tried to schedule family events during the season. I do not want to relive last year's drama. As a non-fan of football, how do I pry my husband away from the television long enough to spend quality time with his wife? -- Not a Football Fan, Birmingham, Alabama
DEAR NOT A FOOTBALL FAN: Stop fighting with your husband over behavior that you know to be part of his M.O. Why? Because you will be fighting a losing battle. Instead, make an agreement with your husband that you will do something together on one or both of his free nights. I suggest one night because otherwise he will be tired and grumpy. Your date can be anything from being together at home with the TV off to going out with friends. If you are able to plan something easy and fun, you may find that you both will look forward to that during football season.
Additionally, you should schedule an activity for yourself during his busy nights. Is there a class you would like to take? A hobby that you never found time to pursue? Football season can become your season of exploration if you use the time wisely!