DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a college student about to go through sorority recruitment. There have been a few events where I can meet the members of Greek organizations. I have tried to attend these events alone, but one of my friends regards me as an "expert" and insists on going to every event with me. I am not an expert in any way! I just feel comfortable meeting new people. I would like to get to know new people without someone clinging to me, but I am not sure if I am being overly sensitive. I would like to do this alone. Should I be mad at my friend for not understanding that I am trying to meet people alone? I try to not talk about my schedule, but she constantly springs up whenever she sees me walking down the hall. Should I ask her to stop tagging along, or should I feel some sympathy for her during this hectic time? -- Recruitment Woes, Pittsburgh
DEAR RECRUITMENT WOES: Be upfront with your friend. Tell her you know she is excited and probably a little nervous about the recruitment process, because you are as well. Add that you want to go to these events solo. This is what makes you comfortable as you are figuring out your interests. While she wants to go together, just make it clear that you care about her, but you do not want her to be your plus-one on this adventure.