DEAR HARRIETTE: I do not like to bring social media into relationships because I feel like it is a bit childish. However, my girlfriend has recently done something that bothers me. On a Facebook post, one of her ex-boyfriends commented, "I miss you." On that same post, one of my friends commented, and my girlfriend responded with a kissy face towards him. I tend to not read into social media too much, but my girlfriend is acting like she's single, especially on this post. She ignored the ex-boyfriend's comment, but I was still rubbed the wrong way that she didn't delete it. My girlfriend hasn't said anything about the post, and I haven't brought it up. I am not sure if I am being dramatic or have the right to be suspicious about the whole thing. Why is she being so flirtatious and leaving up messages from exes on her posts when she's dating me? -- Puzzled, Westchester, New York
DEAR PUZZLED: Rather than blowing this out of proportion, speak directly to your girlfriend. Tell her that her ex-boyfriend's post made you uncomfortable and that you don't know why she left it up -- or why she posted a kissy face at her friend. Tell her that it makes you feel like she is flirting with him, which disturbs you.
Ask her if she misses this fellow. Probe to see where she feels you two are in your relationship. This could be "innocent" flirtation with the push of a button, but without much thought. Or it could point to a bigger issue. Talk to her so you can find out.