DEAR HARRIETTE: In the world of college students, the social life can get pretty tough. While on this journey, I have come across some kids who are more well-off than others. One of my friends continuously shows off what she has and spends large amounts of money in front of another friend who is not as fortunate. It has been bothering this other friend of mine. I do not know whether I should confront my flashy friend or continue not saying anything when these moments occur. How do I approach this situation without losing my friend? -- Hush Her Up, Denver
DEAR HUSH HER UP: Do not be a bystander in this situation. By all means, speak up. Pull your better-off friend aside and tell her that you are disturbed by the way she throws money around in front of other people, particularly your friend who lives much more modestly. Inform her that her behavior makes everyone uncomfortable and probably makes that one friend feel inadequate. Tell her you think that what she is doing is rude and probably unconscious, but she should stop. You can turn the tables and ask her how she would feel if someone was constantly showing off and bragging in front of her.
Finally, if your friend continues to misbehave in this manner, walk away and take the others with you as soon as she starts. She may get the message if she instantly loses her audience!