DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a friend who is nearing 32 and still living off her parents. She graduated from Yale and continued her studies at Duke as well as living abroad for a couple of years. But as the years passed, she was never able to commit to a job. I am worried that 10 more years will pass with nothing changing, and she will be left with no income. How do I approach her about getting her life together in a positive way? -- Being a Friend, Shreveport, Louisiana
DEAR BEING A FRIEND: Until your friend's parents stop enabling her, it will likely be extremely difficult for her to see the magnitude of her situation. On one hand, it is very generous of parents to support their adult children as they are completing their education and starting their lives. But at some point, it can become difficult for that adult child to learn how to be responsible and independent.
As a friend, you can attempt to talk to her about her choices. You might ask her about her dreams for the future. What does she want to do with her life? When does she plan to move out and be on her own? What can she do with the degrees she has? You can prompt discussion points, but she probably will not feel the pressure to "snap out of it" until she is pushed out of the family nest.