DEAR HARRIETTE: My son owns a nightclub in our town, which he has owned for a few years already. My wife and I have never gone, primarily because we do not "party." We are churchgoing people, and we don't really think he should have gotten involved in this club in the first place. He assures us that it is tasteful. He calls it a lounge, but I know they serve alcohol, which means it could be trouble in our book. How can we support our son without compromising our belief that you shouldn't get involved in such things? -- Drawing a Line, Shreveport, Louisiana
DEAR DRAWING A LINE: Your son has got to know already how you feel about his choice of owning a lounge. Unless he is regularly inviting you to come visit, that aspect of your question is probably not relevant. What he likely would appreciate is your blessing that he has a business and is attempting to make it successful in the community. Not all establishments that serve alcohol become sources of trouble, as you put it. There are many lounges and other types of establishments that are elegant, efficient, successful and respectable. His may be one of them.
Rather than judging your son based on something you haven't even seen, talk to him about his business. Learn about his strategy for success. You can remind him that his choice is beyond your area of interest, but add that you love him and want him to be successful.