DEAR HARRIETTE: I met a woman the other day who made me feel so sad. She has built what one can only describe as a perfect life. From a very early age she accepted the Lord, and then she followed his path. She has had a strong career and she even met the man of her dreams and married him well into her 40s. She had a baby in her mid-40s naturally. I am happy for her but sad for me. When I was young, I got involved in drugs and sex. I had a series of horrible relationships, didn't finish school and feel like a loser. I have a decent job today, but I wonder what my life would have been like if I had made different choices. I'm already in my mid-40s with hardly anything to show for it. I feel worthless. How can I turn my feelings around? I don't want to resent this woman who could be such an inspiration. -- Feeling Sorry for Myself, Salt Lake City
DEAR FEELING SORRY FOR MYSELF: The Bible tells you not to covet what other people have -- for a reason. That behavior will never lead you to a good place. Instead of bemoaning your state when you think about hers, let her story motivate you. You are alive, so it is not too late to make more of your life. Take time to meditate on your dreams. What would you do with your life if given another chance? Think carefully about this. When you come up with an idea, write out steps that you believe it will take to get there. Do you need more education? To move to another city? To collaborate with others? What will it take? Step by step, you can change your life. Dream big and then take tiny steps to make your dream come true. And be sure to include public service throughout your journey. Helping others who need support will fill your heart and strengthen your soul.