DEAR MISS MANNERS: I frequent a pub daily. All ages and types of people gather at this venue. It is family-friendly.
The problem is the jukebox. It blasts songs that use curse words and clearly state acts of violence and degradation. These blare during all hours of business.
I asked the owner to please do something about it. She was wonderful. She put a filter on the jukebox, so we didn't have to keep listening to this loud, degrading music.
The problem is, now I have a whole group of haters that are angry at having their choice of music taken from them.
My response has always been that everyone has the right to enjoy their time at that venue without disturbing lyrics loudly blasting away. I still get haters and anger. Is it possible to provide another reply that is polite that might work?
GENTLE READER: One is told to be magnanimous in victory, but what you really need to be is absent -- if not literally, at least figuratively.
If you are asked directly about what happened (but not otherwise), Miss Manners recommends: "I completely understand. It's just that the lyrics to some of those songs drive away the families and children -- and they are such a big part of a family-friendly business."