DEAR MISS MANNERS: How do I inform someone that he cannot come to my home unless he stops wearing perfume?
Each time we invite our brother-in-law for dinner, he brings his boyfriend, who not only has bad etiquette, but also wears the most obnoxious scent. It has caused bad migraines for the rest of us.
I am about to send another dinner invite to my brother-in-law, but I really want to emphasize that he needs to tell his boyfriend not to wear perfume -- or just not bring him at all. I am unable to tell his boyfriend directly, as he barely speaks English and I don't have his contact info.
GENTLE READER: What a blessing. Because "Please don't stink up the joint" is no way to welcome a guest.
Instead, appeal to your brother-in-law with some version of, "I am afraid that I must have developed an allergy or sensitivity to strong scents -- and Francois' cologne has been exacerbating it. Is there any way for him to avoid wearing it when he comes over? We do so enjoy his company otherwise."
Failing that, you could declare that you are taking extra COVID precautions and require that masks be worn in the house -- if only, perhaps, for its occupants.