DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a female with a male roommate; we came up with a verbal agreement where I cook dinner every night and he does the dishes. I always take into consideration any food allergies, likes and dislikes.
One night, I made dinner as usual, and my roommate came home after I was done eating, which is normal for him. When I asked him if he was going to eat dinner, he said no, because he did not feel like eating steak again.
Most men never complain about a steak dinner, so I was surprised by this.
Don't get me wrong, it provided me a lunch for the next day, but I was raised that when somebody cooks you dinner, especially at your request, you eat it (unless, of course, you are allergic to it). And since my roommate does not have an allergy, I find it rude that he did not sit down to eat the meal that I prepared.
GENTLE READER: Your verbal agreement is in need of an amendment.
If this were a dinner guest or date, not eating what you prepared just because he didn't feel like it would indeed be rude. But in one's own home, one gets some autonomy over what one consumes, as long as expectations -- in this case, the cleanup part, but also, perhaps, the grocery expenses -- are still being met and evenly shared.
Miss Manners suggests that you come up with a more flexible plan to this effect. And make it one that includes room for unexpected leftovers.