DEAR MISS MANNERS: We lost everything (including our pets) in a house fire two years ago. We were devastated, as nothing was recoverable. Many people helped with money, blankets, clothing, a GoFundMe page, etc.
Then my husband lost his job in early June, and was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer.
Was I supposed to send thank-you notes to all who sent money and provided financial help during the time after the fire? It went from one bad event to the next. Are there some circumstances where a thank-you card can be overlooked? Am I ungrateful?
GENTLE READER: Apparently. With all the terrible luck you have had, you are ignoring your good fortune in having people who care enough to help you.
Are you truly not grateful to them? And do you not want to encourage such kindness by telling them how much it meant to you?
Miss Manners can understand that you are focused on the bad things that have happened to you. But it would do you good to look at the kinder side, as well. Expressing thanks is not just a chore to repay a debt, but a reminder of not having to suffer alone.