DEAR MISS MANNERS: I just received a wedding invitation with no instructions on how to RSVP -- no reply card, no email address, no phone number.
I do not plan on attending. Do I owe them any reply? If so, should I send it to the return address? Post something to their social media page (the way we usually communicate)? Call them?
GENTLE READER: It is baffling, isn’t it? That with 98,576 methods of communication available to us today, we cannot seem to figure out how to find someone if not specifically informed of the method.
This wedding invitation is a quaint throwback to a time where even with only one form of communication -- a home address -- it was assumed that people could figure out that hosts might like to know how many guests to expect. The proper thing, Miss Manners assures you, would be to use said address and write a letter expressing your regrets. Not, she is sorry to tell you, to shoot them a GIF or a tweet.