DEAR MISS MANNERS: I love my neighbors, and would like to solve a recurring problem with their guests, as it creates hard feelings and frustration on my side, and likely for my neighbors as well.

They live across the street, and we are located at the end of our street. When their guests come, they invariably park directly in front of the neighbors’ house, which puts their car at the entrance to my driveway, so I can neither pull in nor back out of my driveway. Sometimes there are two cars there.

Their driveway is large enough to allow six cars to park comfortably. There is plenty of space in front of my house to park, on my side of the street, but no one ever parks there. And there are plenty of places to park even if the two spaces in front of their house at the end of my driveway were not used.

What do you recommend as a solution? My neighbor has helped to direct people to park in other places, as have I. I’ve thought of creating signs that could be put out.

GENTLE READER: It is time for a polite demonstration. Next time the problem recurs, ring the doorbell and explain that you need to get out -- and cannot.

Your neighbors, and their guests, will then need to interrupt the festivities to extricate you. This is likely to be memorable enough that it will discourage future occurrences.

Miss Manners realizes you may need to invent an errand to make this credible: insisting on getting out and then having nowhere to go will also create lasting memories -- but not ones that will solve your problem.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: When, if ever, is it permissible to cut one’s food into multiple smaller bites at the same time?

I find it much more efficient to cut an entree into several pieces at once, eat them individually with my fork, then cut some more.

This works well with a stack of pancakes or a waffle. Why not for bacon, fried eggs or a choice cut of meat, even a steak or prime rib?

I find it ineffective to tarry over a single bite, put down my knife, transfer my fork from my less-dominant hand, consume the sole piece, then “wash, rinse and repeat” multiple times during the course of my meal.

Must all food be singly and deliberately savored? I’m not racing to the finish, just trying to consume my food more easily and efficiently. Can you let things slide and cut me some slack, or must I be skewered?

GENTLE READER: Unless you cook your eggs for a very long time, they are likely to slide with or without Miss Manners’ permission. But for everything else, she will say that detaching two mouthfuls at a time is allowed. The rule is not so much that every single bite be detached in a separate operation, but rather that the result not be Lego-like mounds of hot dog, Brussels sprouts and polenta.

Dietitians and nutritionists will, like Miss Manners, remind you that, as a nation, our eating habits are a good deal too efficient already.

(Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.com; to her email, dearmissmanners@gmail.com; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a 21-year-old woman who is very close with my 86-year-old grandmother, and I see her weekly. Sometimes when my friends come up in conversation, my grandmother will refer to the female ones as my “girlfriends.”

I refer to all my friends as “friends,” regardless of gender. I am also bisexual, which my grandmother knows and accepts, but she continues to refer to my female friends as “girlfriends,” even knowing the possibility that I could have a romantic girlfriend.

I have politely corrected her when she refers to a female friend as my girlfriend -- ”I’m not dating her, we’re just friends” -- but she continues to do it. She is in good shape, physically and mentally, and she holds progressive opinions, so it’s likely not a matter of an old dog not being able to learn new tricks.

Is this an ingrained generational difference, or could I persuade her differently?

GENTLE READER: No, and probably not.

The fact is that even now, many people, young and old, use “girlfriend” in either sense -- as the female in a friendship or in a romance. You are not going to win that one.

Miss Manners suggests that you try teaching your grandmother to refer to your romantic interests as “partners” -- and try learning not to be upset if she doesn’t.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: What is the matter with young people expecting guests to travel to far-flung destinations for weddings that could easily be celebrated locally?

My grandson’s oldest and dearest friend is getting married on Long Island, New York. The groom’s younger brother planned a bachelor party in New Orleans.

As a groomsman, my grandson has the expense of flying to New Orleans, two nights’ hotel stay, food and drinks. Then there is the wedding: tux rental and a generous gift for his best friend.

The bachelor party could have been held on Long Island or even in Manhattan, which would have eliminated airfare and hotel stays.

Have young people any sense of values? None of these people come from affluent families. All working people. Can you knock some good common sense into them?

GENTLE READER: Shouldn’t your grandson try? Did he tell the bridegroom’s brother that he regretted that he could not attend the bachelor party? Did he talk to the other groomsmen, who may have felt the same way?

Wedding industry propaganda has succeeded in making many outrageous expenses seem not only desirable, but necessary. Many bridal couples go into serious debt for their weddings.

Miss Manners believes that they are receptive because weddings -- and to a lesser extent, proms, which are also subject to ridiculous costs -- are the only really festive occasions in their lives. Everything else being strictly casual -- even work, now -- their wedding is their only chance to dress up, to participate in rituals and, one must admit, to show off.

But if others refused to go along with it, and stopped spending their money and holiday time witnessing other people’s extravagant fantasies, sense might prevail.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Am I correct in my belief that, circa 1800, the initials engraved on a spoon would have been those of the wife’s married name?

GENTLE READER: More likely they would be her maiden initials, as those who could collect silver began doing so before marriage. Sometimes even before the prospect of marriage, but also during long engagements.

It strikes Miss Manners as all the more practical nowadays, when long engagements have returned, whether because of elaborate wedding planning or the interruption of having children.

(Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.com; to her email, dearmissmanners@gmail.com; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)

DEAR MISS MANNERS: When I meet people I do not know, they ask me what I do for a living. Most often, when I reply what subject I teach, they say, “Oh, I always hated that in college.”

To which I want to reply, “And I am sure that I would hate what your life’s passion is, too. Please tell me what it is.” But I know that would just make matters even worse, as it would put them on the spot and make them apologize. Maybe that is what they should do, but not how it should come about.

Could you please give me a reply that tells them what they said was not very nice, but at the same time not make me an enemy for life?

GENTLE READER: ”I often hear that from people who are bad at ...” whatever it is that you teach.

If you had told Miss Manners your field, she could have helped you make it more specific. For example, “I often hear this from people who have trouble figuring out a 15 percent tip.” She asks only that you deliver it with a smile and a sympathetic tone.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: When my daughter got married, the wedding was quite small -- immediate family only, without a reception or party. The ceremony was at our house, and she left afterwards for the city where she and her husband live.

Shortly after, she sent out wedding announcements to her close friends and our friends/family. It was a simple announcement without any mention of gift registries. She was concerned that including that information would appear as though she were trolling for gifts.

She has heard from only a handful of people. Her comment was that she had hoped for some sort of congratulatory note or acknowledgment.

So what is the proper response to a wedding announcement? Is she wrong to have hurt feelings? I must admit, I am somewhat disappointed and hurt, also.

GENTLE READER: That is, unfortunately, a common disappointment. Miss Manners is afraid that it has gotten so that people react to receiving wedding invitations or announcements by wondering, “Do we have to buy a present?” rather than with pleasure at the happiness of others.

And if no present is required, they feel that there is nothing to be done. And so they do nothing, omitting the decency of wishing their friends well. Your daughter has informed friends that she was married -- and they have turned away without saying anything. That they will claim that they didn’t know they were supposed to do anything is no excuse.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: One of my male co-workers recently asked me out for supper. I agreed, thinking we were going as friends. Over dinner, he confessed he has been admiring me and had wanted to ask me out for a long time, and that he would like me to consider being his girlfriend.

Miss Manners, he is a very nice guy, but I am not interested in him as a boyfriend. What is a polite way to reject a guy? I don’t want to hurt him at all.

GENTLE READER: This couldn’t be easier: “I don’t date anyone at work.” And hope that he doesn’t admire you enough to find another job.

(Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.com; to her email, dearmissmanners@gmail.com; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)