DEAR MISS MANNERS: My ex-husband and I have been divorced for almost four years. His new wife has now announced their fifth “dating anniversary” via social media.
With simple math, it was obvious to me that they actually did have an affair during our marriage, even though he denied it for years.
He and I are not “friends,” but my youngest child commented on the status, so I saw it in my news feed. Our daughter didn’t realize the timeline conflict, and I did not point it out to her.
I am angry. I am hurt. I thought I was over all the pain.
Is there an appropriate response? Should I confront him? I’m loath to bring up the past, but he really was a jerk. And he’s lied about it for years, too.
GENTLE READER: Etiquette advises you not to respond. So does Miss Manners, who adds her approbation for not explaining the math to your daughter. Your daughter will be doing her own homework on the subject soon enough.