DEAR MISS MANNERS: I’m a woman who has done a fair amount of online dating, on a few different sites. After messaging back and forth, arrangements are generally made to have a phone call, assuming both are interested.
I always review the man’s profile before the call, because it may have been several days or longer since I read it. It seems like the polite and prudent thing to do. That way I can mention things that he said, and ask about his job or places he’s traveled.
However, in some cases, I can tell that the man has not done the same, because he is asking me very basic stuff that is in my profile. I don’t expect him to memorize everything or know everything, but doing a little homework shows the other person some respect.
Is there a polite way for me to comment on this? I’m afraid it would sound snarky if I said, “Did you even read my profile?” Or, “Well, Joe, all that information is in my profile.”
GENTLE READER: “As I mentioned in my profile -- sorry if I am repeating myself -- I do love fly fishing and the changing autumn leaves. I think you said in yours that you preferred cheese-rolling on grassy hills?”