DEAR MISS MANNERS: We received a wedding invitation from my niece’s son addressed “to whom it may concern.”
We met him only once, several years ago, and have never heard from him. We have not heard from his mother, my niece, in about two years. We will not be attending the wedding, as they live in California and we live in Ohio.
Would a card sent with our regrets and best wishes be appropriate to send, without a gift?
GENTLE READER: “To whom it may concern”?
You have no idea how sorely Miss Manners is tempted to say it is no concern of yours. She humbly acknowledges that your solution is the gracious one.