DEAR MISS MANNERS: My fiance is about to buy my engagement ring. He knows I like jewelry, so he always gets me that as a gift.
That being said, he apparently doesn’t really understand my taste. What is the polite way to tell him if I dislike the ring, or should I even do that?
GENTLE READER: Not if you want this engagement to lead to marriage, let alone to more jewelry.
As you know the ring is forthcoming, Miss Manners suggests that you set about quickly complimenting the things that you do like about the jewelry your fiance has already given you. Specifics that are also sufficiently vague -- like “I love round stones” or “I prefer a classic style” -- are useful, while also giving him some room to make his own decisions. Or he may give up in desperation and ask you to take over. Seemingly your preferred option.