DEAR MISS MANNERS: I pick my friend up from work every night, which I normally do alone. My brother also works there, so normally they fight over who rides shotgun, which I let them figure out on their own.
She usually takes front, because she makes such a big deal about it. My brother just gives up.
Well, tonight my husband also rode with me, and we stopped long enough to get out and talk to a few mutual friends. When getting back into my car, my friend claims shotgun by getting in the passenger seat.
My husband was the one driving at that point, so I told her to move. She made a big fuss, so I just sat in the backseat of my own car while she and my husband sat up front. Was she in the wrong or am I just overreacting?
GENTLE READER: Since everyone (except you) is behaving like this is the elementary school carpool, Miss Manners authorizes you to treat them accordingly. Next time a fight breaks out, explain that you are tired of listening to the argument and as the adult in the car, you are now laying down the rules: Your brother gets odd days and your friend gets even days. Your husband will have to take his chances.