DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have worked in the hotel industry as a room attendant for many years, and know the ins and outs of making beds. When my husband and I took a vacation to see friends of ours in another state, they kindly let us stay in their home during our visit. To our surprise, the bed we slept in only had the bottom sheet, and a comforter for our top layer.
Since it was rather warm, the comforter was out of the question to use. We politely asked if we could have a flat sheet for our bed. Our hosts looked shocked we even asked such a question, and flat-out said they didn’t have any flat sheets: “We only use bottom/fitted sheets for all beds in our home.”
We quickly apologized and let it go. The next morning, my husband and I went to the nearest store and bought a flat sheet to use and brought it back home with us.
Is this the latest trend, to not use top sheets anymore? Should we be packing sheets with us whenever we stay at other people’s homes?
What bothered us the most was wondering, when was that comforter last washed?
I guess what we are trying to say, for hostesses out there, is that if people are going to stay in their homes, please provide a complete sheet set that the guests can use or peel away.
Or are we out of line here?
GENTLE READER: When you say “we,” you might include Miss Manners, who believes that a properly made bed has two sheets, an actual blanket, a blanket cover, a bedspread and a reasonable number of pillows so that none has to be pitched overboard to make room for the sleeper.
However, she is aware that she may not encounter this arrangement when she leaves her own well-ordered household. Indeed, there are many who, in using comforters, immediately did away with bedspreads, and are now doing the same with top sheets.
Whether your hosts wash the duvet cover as often as they do the sheets, she cannot say. But it is rude to let on that you suspect your hosts of slovenliness. So Miss Manners hopes that you did not mention that you had to provide your own bedding.