DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband is planning to visit his estranged daughter, who is a lesbian, married and now pregnant with twins. My husband's Christian faith is a matter of contention for her, as same-sex marriage is not sanctioned.
Regardless, my husband loves his daughter and wants to avoid being alienated. He has plans to meet with her for a brief visit.
We have not met her wife, who recently gave birth to a son. The last time his daughter visited us, she condemned and swore at her father, so there is a lot of reconciliation that needs to occur.
Is a gift in order for her or the babies, or her partner and son? If so, what would be appropriate?
GENTLE READER: You have kindly provided Miss Manners with a great deal of irrelevant information. And she knows even less than your husband does what would please your stepdaughter.
Why people keep asking Miss Manners to choose presents for people they know but she does not is a mystery. If there were an all-purpose present that would please everyone, everyone would already have it.
But she is going to give this one a try, based on the one legitimate clue you did provide: that there are going to be a lot of infants in this household. So it shouldn't be too great a burden on the imagination to realize that their parents might need help.
Baby equipment times three? A service to relieve them of some chores? Or best of all, a grandfather willing to show loving consideration by pitching in.