DEAR MISS MANNERS: I received an invitation to attend a Christmas party from an old college friend. He sent it via social media and I accepted via social media. Also attending the party will be a few other old friends I hardly ever see. I had been looking forward to it.
About a month ago, I received the following message, also via social media, from an old acquaintance who is closer to the host and the other guests than I am:
"Hey I'm wondering if you could not go to Joe's party so that I can attend. I kind of dislike you that much.
"Much appreciated (signature)"
I am still planning to attend. I am wondering what the appropriate response to this message would be, and by what medium I should send my response.
GENTLE READER: None. At least not to a person so crude and cruel as to be impervious to decent behavior. It would only provoke further rudeness.
But social media is useful in this case, as you can forward that message to your host, saying that you would indeed like to attend the party, and asking what he would prefer you to do in light of the other guest's attitude.
Miss Manners hopes that person would understand that this is a rare instance in which a dis-invitation is permissible: "I am sorry to learn that the presence of another guest means that you would not enjoy attending my party. Perhaps I will see you another time."
Should the host fail to do that, you will know of two people to avoid. Merry Christmas.