DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was invited to a formal engagement party where the young man being honored is still legally married to his first wife. I am uncomfortable with this, but have been told I'm being silly. What are your thoughts?
GENTLE READER: That the young man will be even more uncomfortable than yourself if he is equally careless about scheduling his second wedding.
Miss Manners recalls that Hamlet was scandalized by the hasty remarriage of his mother to his uncle. But at least Queen Gertrude's first husband was dead, even if his ghost was haunting the palace after bedtime.
The law requires second marriages to follow the dissolution of the first marriages. Etiquette agrees that any associated festivities should do so as well.