DEAR MISS MANNERS: A co-worker frequently brings sweet treats into the office to share with everyone. This seems like a generous thing to do.
But she then spends the rest of the day telling everyone who partakes how she has been "good" by not eating the treat herself.
This tends to make those of us partaking in the treat feel guilty, which may or may not be her intention. As a side note, she is quite thin, while most of us could lose a few pounds.
Is there an appropriate rejoinder to her statements about being "good" without being rude, or am I just being overly sensitive?
GENTLE READER: As you are comparing your weight to that of this co-worker, Miss Manners fears that this, rather than generosity, might indeed have been the intention. And it worked.
If you feel that a rejoinder is necessary in addition to your thanks, you might say, "Well, you should feel good about making others feel happy."
The reply is unlikely to be, "No, I feel good because I don't give in to temptation the way I made you do, and that's why I'm thinner than you, nyah, nyah."