DEAR MISS MANNERS: Is there a way to politely drop the hint that a baby shower at work is unwanted?
I began my new job and my pregnancy at the same time (not that it was quite planned that way), and as time goes on, I find that I am less and less comfortable with my co-workers socially (in the modern patois, "I find we are a poor fit"). There are many whom I do not want to mix with socially, much less be the object (or the mother of the object) of one of those forced in-office celebrations.
Also, my family will be showering me, as well as a group of friends. Is there any way I may use the "embarrassment of riches" excuse? Or is the only correct thing to do to allow my co-workers to express their (willing or unwilling) delight at my pregnancy as a social duty I must perform?
GENTLE READER: Has anyone actually mentioned throwing you a shower, or are you just afraid of the possibility?
If someone asks you directly, you may politely demure, not by citing your popularity outside of the office, but by insisting you wouldn't want to burden people in the workplace. If they're planning a surprise, however, you must endure. With all of the thank-you letters you'll have to write, surely you'll find something socially redeemable in your co-workers.