DEAR ABBY: My wife and I play on a pool team. About a year ago, the team captain looked at my wife and said, "So, can I play with your lower private area?" (He didn't use those words.) My wife, who is very shy, was shocked.
He has made dumb comments before, and I've warned him several times. This time when I told him, he was dumb enough to invite me outside. I slapped him around a bit. We are both big guys. I'm 6-foot-4, 300 pounds. He's as tall, maybe a few pounds lighter.
Now the members of the league here have shunned my wife and me. Was I wrong? Should I have let that guy talk to my wife like that? -- SECOND-GUESSING IN THE SOUTH
DEAR SECOND-GUESSING: Violence is never the answer. You and your wife should have left as soon as those words were uttered. As for the rest of the league shunning you, I think it's time you found another league to play pool with -- one with nice people to compete with, rather than animals.