DEAR ABBY: My 20-year-old daughter has been dating a wonderful young man for two years. He's 21, almost 22. He treats her exceptionally well.
She has decided on a whim that she has "an itch" to know what it's like to "be with" other people! (They were each other's first everything.) I do understand that thought or "itch," but I don't feel it NEEDS to be acted upon.
When she told him, it broke his heart. When I asked him if he was OK, he responded, "No, but I will be. I just want her to be happy." It brought tears to my eyes. He's such a wonderful young man.
My daughter has no idea what a huge mistake she's making. Of course I want to support her no matter what, but I feel her actions are mean and selfish. How do I convey this to her but also be supportive? -- EMOTIONAL MOM IN BALTIMORE
DEAR MOM: It is better that the boyfriend knows your daughter's true feelings. Having said what she did has freed him to move on.
Tell her you are glad she confided in you, you think she had a solid gold winner in the young man she has been with for the last two years, and you will always be there to emotionally support her if she needs it. That's all you can do at this point.