DEAR ABBY: I have been seeing a woman for a year, and everything seemed pretty sweet. She told me when we met that trust is important to her as she has had issues in past relationships, including with her ex-husband, who was seeing an ex without disclosing it to her.
This week I saw a series of texts pop up on her phone from someone I have never heard her mention. When I asked about it, she said they were from an "old friend." I found it troubling and asked her more about it. She then mentioned she had been in a romantic relationship with him many years ago. She also disclosed that the text exchange was started because she told him (via text) that she had dreamed about him the night before.
She assured me her dream was not romantic or of a sexual nature, and her intent in reaching out wasn't romantic. Despite this, my suspicion meter has gone through the roof, and I'm having a hard time trusting her story. I find this especially baffling given her history. Am I overreacting? -- LESS TRUSTFUL NOW
DEAR LESS TRUSTFUL: If everything has been going well in your relationship with this woman for a year, why are you looking at text messages that pop up on her phone? Although not all people would text an ex about his/her appearance in a dream, she can text whomever she wishes, and she shouldn't have to account to you for it.
The two of you need to have a serious conversation about the parameters of your relationship. The problem may be your insecurity, and if you are going to have a successful outcome with anyone, you had better learn to control it.